The sculptures in Hindu temples celebrate the sex-act as a divine
inducement. Too, was love held just as important, so much so that
the consensus was that children would not be conceived unless there
was pleasure and passion between lovers. Meanwhile, there’d been endless
periods in western history in which sex was perceived as a vulgar
manifestation of animalism.
Most animals go through matting phases. The female is at her optimal
condition for the sexual intercourse, thus seemingly irresistible
attractive to the male gaze, just so in this time of the year in which
she is all geared up to conceive. The humankind is an exception to
the rule. The sexual desire is, or might be in, all year around.
That means that sexual impulse is connected lesser to the process
of reproduction, rather than other qualities of the individual.
When having sex, our expectation is not just supposed to be yielding
satisfaction to an instinctive impulse. Through sex, we’re able to
express sentiments of tenderness and reassurance to somebody else.
Hence, the pleasure we give is as important as what we receive. Two
human beings desperately in love for each other usually get to experience
streaks of fusion, of physical and psychological closeness, as of
identity. In the humanly sexual intercourse the loving couple might
reach out for the illusion of unity. It’s illusion because their bodies,
although united, are not one and so-remain their sensations being
exclusive. Even those animals destitute of matting season are different
from humans in their sexual manifestation. How could such diversity
be explained?
The humankind is unique in its capability of getting the message
across through the symbols. Broadly, we “speak” by the meaning of
the words, and also through any given action, of each and every
gesture. Whichever the humankind do comes overburden with significance.
In this sense, is the sexual rapport a delicious mode of language,
through which we make ourselves clear inasmuch as we induce pleasure
in our partner. It would never be too far fetched to stick out to
the notion that sex ought to be regarded as a dual-relationship.
Such remark may not be as obvious as it seems, since it would
easier if every one could only mind their own business in sex. If
the sexual rapport seems to be not satisfactorily, one is bound to
grow concerned with self-performance.
The mass media broadcast usually saturates our sight and hearing
with straightforward references, or underlying innuendos, towards
the primacy of “ sexual efficiency”. Frequently, the net result of
such pressure comes across as overdone gauging with self-performance.
All of which might make us forget our sex-partner entirely. If sex
comes across as a mode of communication, it mustn’t be mistaken by
the melancholic-wise dual-masturbation.
Nevertheless, the acknowledgement of new techniques that enable
inducement of highly intense pleasure, including masturbation, ensures
caring trade off all along between lovers. It’s imperative that
the man and the woman catch up with the preferences and spots most
sensitive of the partner’s body. With a hint of imagination, it’s
always possible to renew the satisfaction triggered by sexual relationship.
By Jonatas Dornelles
Anthropologist |
