Whoever
heard about nymphomania envisages someone who lusts for sex all
the time, anywhere and with anyone he/she could lay his/her hands
on. It's not altogether wrong; nevertheless, nymphomania imbues
a much wider concept, encompassing both genders.
Otherwise known as sex addiction, hyper- sexuality or hyperactive
sexual desire, so much for men as women.
The nymphomaniac woman is compulsively promiscuous, having sexual
relations fuelled by constant sexual impulses recklessly. Too motto
is sexually geared up, neither love bonds and affection nor communication
with sex partner. There's total detachment of any bond unless sexually
charged. Priority is sexually- laden although often that doesn't suffice
either.
It's argued that this kind of women is trying to solve identity-related
problems other than obtaining sexual gratification.
It boils down to emotionally confused women and with a great deal
of difficulty in accepting their own femininity. Pleasure lingering
after sexual intercourse oscillates as their vast majority gets left
up the garden path orgasm-wise. Those women, whose sexual acts mean
thriving for domination and power-so-called power freaks, are sometimes
orgasmic burden not by positive feelings but by presumptuously reckon
domination over sex partners.
A nymphomaniac gets beside oneself with lust-burden sexual fantasies
along with inadequate control over, generating a certain suffering
somehow. This suffering stems from twisted thoughts and feelings overriding
common sense. No resentment felt whatsoever, no fear of loss since
all they care is to please their own sexual kicks.
When it comes to avoid or get a grip over sexual impulses they tend
to turn all worked up or even slump in depression. A curiosity is
the fact that there are different levels of sexual compulsion ranging
from overdoing masturbation to prostitution and some whacky sexual
disorders like pedophilia and rape.
As far as sexuality is concerned, causes vary a lot. There might
be hormonal imbalance of neural substances. And yet, owing to a fixation
in a pre-oedipal phase of the sexual development lingering to emotional
disarray. More specifically in the anal phase whereupon the core fundamental
is compulsion.
To instance treatments, ideal would be a combination of isolated
therapies along with medication administration.
Some gals out there, noticeably, who feel in need of two or more
comes in a day with multiple orgasms-lucky them, shouldn't be alarmed.
Providing their sex lives involve only a husband or sex partner, it
falls under normal patterns and you can rest assured that the blend
nymphomaniac is far from your reality.
By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist
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